Interesting how we’re always hearing how shameful and irresponsible it is to be a teen mom.
But we never hear the same messages directed at teen dads.
Or even the words “teen dad”.
It’s almost like society demonizes women’s sexuality and sexual choices while absolving men of all sexual responsibility and judgement.
Actually it’s because the dads aren’t usually teens:
Men older than high school age fathered 77% of all births to high school-aged girls (ages 16–18), and 51% of births to junior high school-aged girls (under 16). Men over age 25 fathered twice as many children of teenage mothers than boys under age 18, and men over age 20 fathered five times as many children of junior high school-aged girls as did junior high school-aged boys.
So there’s actually a whole other can of worms on top the problems with how society treats women’s sexual choices.
Being an ally is something you do, not something you are.
It just occurred to me that the main reason that “coming out as an ally” shouldn’t be a thing is because if you’re actually an ally, people should already know. Being an ally means calling people on their homophobic, transphobic, and binarist shit. Being an ally means actually doing activism, generally where people can see you. If you’re so meek about it that the bigots in your life would be surprised about you not being one of them, then you might not actually be an ally.
- Glamour UK: What do you get riled up about in a feminist context?
- Gillian Anderson: A lot. I have feminist bones and when I hear things or see people react to women in certain ways I have very little tolerance.
- Glamour UK: But don't you feel sorry for modern men? Not knowing whether they should help us with our bags and open doors for us or whether we'll see it as an affront?
- Gillian Anderson: No. I don't feel sorry for men.
- Gillian Anderson is a badass